Emilyro, I think the way you look at sex is part of the problem. Who are you to say how someone should look at sex or that their way of looking at it is wrong? That is what has led us to this seemingly crisis of morality in the US. The answer, historically, has not been to become more oppressive, but less. Who cares who objectifies sex? What is so sacred about it other than the church tells you it is? That doesn't make it so. I believe so strongly in that statement, I am going to say it twice. Just because the church says so, doesn't make it so. If there are two consenting adults, I don't care what they do. Lines should only be drawn when ppl are actually harmed. There is nothing wrong with the thrill of the chase. Many a great love story begins with some obnoxious guy not giving up. It is the girl's right to say no and that is what she should do if she doesn't want it. If the guy doesn't respect that then that is a totally different story than what is being told in this song. Talking about blurred lines.
As a woman that has raised one son and two daughters, and is married, I am compelled to ring in with my two cents. Let’s face it, our culture has somewhat gone to hell in a hand basket, so to speak. The goings on with Robin and Miley was gross, but it was Miley that was gross. She was the one making all the crude looks and disgusting movements and it was not a depiction of the song. The song talks about a “hard to get” woman, and she was hardly that. She gets 100% responsibility for that. People want to step up and say she is a 20 year old and he is 36, he should know better. She has been in the crude business far longer than Robin Thicke has. She is messed up and that is not Robin’s fault, nor is he responsible for protecting her, as I doubt she would take anyone protecting her. That was her father’s job back in the day he was letting her take kinky photos when she was 15.
I cringe when I read that Robin’s song promotes “rape culture” when it is really about a man that wants to get a bit kinky with a girl and yes, he is trying to talk her into it, but that is life. We negotiate our will on thousands of levels every day. When it goes sideways is when a “no” isn’t respected and a person takes what they want anyway. This song does not communicate that. I hate to think of what would happen in my own love life if every time my husband and I had sex, he had to be all proper about it. Sometimes, people just want to get nasty and there is nothing wrong with that and that is what, I think, this song is about, not rape. Robin is talking about someone that thinks she is a “good girl” and telling her it’s okay if she wants to get nasty. It is a rebellion against a prude religious culture that would teach that sex is “bad” kind of thing. The pendulum swings wide. Is this a song that should be playing on the radio and idolized by people? I don’t know, but, as a nation, we are trying to find balance with it all because religious prudishness has brought its own set of problems and this is part of that process. But healing doesn’t come with finger pointing and blame without first understanding part of where behavior comes from in the first place.
See, you open the box on one issue and then try to wrap it up in a bow, and it doesn’t really work. Talk about the rape culture and you can’t not talk about how the religious culture has contributed to that. And honestly, until that is addressed, getting all over Robin Thicke about it isn’t going to change a thing. The words of his song are being taken out of context and if you still don’t approve of them, he is a symptom, not the problem.
FYI, statistically, countries with a more open position on sexual activity and nudity have lower instances of rape (crime in general actually), lower teen pregnancy and lower cases of child molestation (information gathered by the UN). A thought to ponder.