Personally, I am VERY glad that spanking is demonised, I only wish it were banned as it is here in Europe. " But it bugs me that modern thinkers would indict millions of loving, conscientious parents who have given their kids a swat on the bottom because they loved them so much they didn't want them to grow up to be a fool." Really? As a 56 yr old grandmother who was spanked and who lost her love, respect and trust of her parents from the first smack, I can tell you that I DO indict them and anyone else who HITS a defenceless child! I have never respected or trusted anyone who hits another! I learned only fear, pain, anger, resentment and hate. I learned they didn't love me. And no, that post spanking pep talk [or any other talk] of 'we love you' never meant a thing to me - after all they had just hit me and proved it! I learned that adults lied and could and would get away with anything. I was a very well behaved child, quiet and thoughtful - and spanking ruined my childhood. I talked to my mother about this shortly before she died. She just said that I was fine and ok with it. Well I wasn't .. I was a seething mass, and a frightened little girl.
I live in Europe now, where spanking and hitting children has been banned for decades - and we are not seeing children running riot, nor the amount of criminal and violent behaviour as in the States. I raised my two children without hitting them - and they are now great adults. My grandchildren too are being raised without violence, and are a delight.
I am appalled that in this day and age, ANYONE with half a brain cell would think that striking a child would TEACH it anything. And that is what discipline means .. to teach... not to hit.