I am a wife of a soldier that was killed in Iraq in 2007 and laid to rest in the Chattanooga National Cemetery. I too find "MommaF'"s comment offensive. I know the grief that you can go through when loosing someone and its something you struggle with for the rest of your life. When you join the Military you have to make a large amount of decisions in regards to what will happen when you die, As the soldier you make those decisions knowing the rules and regulations about them. My husband wanted to be buried in a National Cemetery and thats where he is. If he had wanted to be buried at another location with his parents then thats what he would have stated. When the time comes that I pass away, I want my final resting place to be with my husband in the National Cemetery the way he wanted it and for his mother not to be there. Please do not make assumptions on a situation that you have not been faced with.