Are you seriously comparing an abortion to a vasectomy or Viagra? A vasectomy would be equal to a tubal ligation if you want an equal comparison to men and women. Or even closer than abortion would be a hysterectomy. Women can't walk into a clinic and request one of those. Why aren't you fighting for that? And what right do men have when it comes to a voice in saving the life of their child when a woman wants an abortion--the baby is theirs also? I have never heard a woman say, "I got an abortion and I'm glad of it, I feel good about it." You know why....because they don't feel good about it. Women are tricked into thinking that it's okay and then later feel guilt and loss. Those like the author of this article have minimized the aftermath of this, and also underestimate the intelligence of women. Do you really think a woman doesn't have enough sense to know she's pregnant and get an abortion if she really wants one BEFORE 20 weeks--this is what these states are arguing about! Have you followed the trial recently in regard to the abortion clinic who was killing babies after they are born along with the permanent damage/infections/lack of ability to conceive in the future- imposed upon women who visited this clinic? And you still think the laws are too strict? This doesn't sound to me like you really want "equality" for women but want to ensure men are superior by debilitating women in a number of ways.
Furthermore, there are several untruths in this article:
1)"The child goes to school, however, only one parent can relate to the school, further complicating the everyday function of the family." Any named person a custodial parent allows placed on student records is allowed to have total access of records, the child etc. A parent can name grandparents, aunts, uncles or whomever they please. This is a "parent choice" which it should be, and does not involve the federal gov.
2)"Suppose there’s an accident, Sara is seriously injured and lands in the hospital with life-or-death issues. Who can make those decisions?" Again---whomever the custodial parent allows.
Are there custodial gay couples? Absolutely:
As a teacher, I have had students w/gay couples as their "custodial parents". They are allowed access and all the rights of any other parents, so I don't know what Mr. Nevens is arguing in regard to any of this. He is either confused about the facts or stating "untruths" in order to make a point.
The only thing gay parents cannot do is to actually procreate....and this is something that no federal law can change.
I am sorry for this pastor's loss of his son. As a parent, I know this is the most painful experience a person could face. Knowing this, what I don't understand is how Mr. Nevels can "advocate" a lifestyle that (at the least) contributed to his son's death, and (at the most) caused it. As a parent myself, I would want to teach/train others in ways that would prevent another parent from having to undergo this type of pain. Hurt and pain can cause us to react in many different ways; sometimes guilt can be the leading emotion, but I still don't understand why this parent would not want to do as much as possible to "protect" other parents and children from the same hurt and harm he has experienced rather than "fighting for" the lifestyle that caused it.