He obviously did not care much for his wife given his affair and how he treated her and his lack of concern for his missing wife.
Have you walked this path before??????
When You Have Walked a mile in his shoes then and only then can you tell everyone how you would handle losting your wife!!!! And how someone should act when it happens to them!! everyone handles stress and death in diffrent ways, He would have been in an unwanted spot light if he would have went to the scene, You dont know he may of wanted to be there, but just couldn't bring himself to see that!!!!!